I think most of us would agree that relationships take work and that, many times, relationships can take us away from our centeredness and groundedness in an instant. Why is that? Why is it that the people we love the most and those we interact with the most know how to push our buttons? Well, because relationships are like mirrors – they help us see ourselves as we actually are…they bring up in us the areas we need to heal and deepen spiritually, and so, relationships really are about our inner spiritual journey.
The great spiritual teacher, Krishnamurti, has a beautiful quote that speaks exactly to this point of relationship as a mirror. He says:
“Self-knowledge comes into being when we are aware of ourselves in relationship, which shows what we are from moment to moment. Relationship is a mirror in which to see ourselves as we actually are…If one is able to see oneself as one is in this extraordinary mirror of relationship, which does not distort, if one can just look into this mirror with full attention and see actually what is, be aware of it without condemnation, without judgment, without evaluation – and one does this when there is earnest interest – then one will find that the mind is capable of freeing itself from all conditioning; and it is only then that the mind is free to discover that which lies beyond the field of thought.”
That which lies beyond our field of thought is the place where our true essence lays – in pure and unconditional love. When we remember that love is the essence of our being, and that no one can take that away from us, it is to this place we can go to in times of challenge. In those times, we can choose love instead of fear or anger to get us through the moment, and in choosing love we transform that moment into divine grace – the moment when relationship and spiritual practice become one. So I invite you to see those two parts of you becoming one – integrating relationship into your spiritual practice, and as you do, you will find healing and more harmonious relationships reigning in your life.
Until our next gathering…